“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” - ― Eckhart Tolle
For a parent, to not think about the future would seem nonsensical and irresponsible, even.
Naturally, one needs to plan for the future for the sake of the children.
If a child has special needs, the parent is advised to plan out the child's transition to adulthood long before the teenage years arrive. To forego this would be to the child’s detriment.
“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love - even the most simple action.
Things that happened in the past cannot be changed. The future has not yet arrived and so, is uncertain.
The power to influence the present moment is all that we ever truly have. And even then, our influence does not necessarily give us absolute power to alter events. This power that we wield lies in the quality of our reaction to events that transpire around us.
Ultimately, it is our internal environment, not the outside world, that determines whether an experience leads us to happiness, contentment or distress.